Commitment is action. When you are committed to your vocation, you take action in showing up, and carrying out your area of responsibility. There are no excuses, no debates, no wondering. You show up and finish whats supposed to be done.
In relationships, taking action means that both parties put in effort into the relationship. You take the trouble to make the relationship work. That means you don?t just sit and wait, hoping that things will become better. You take action, to make things better than they were.
For example, the actions can be
- cooking for your partner
- massaging him or her
- accompanying to do something you dont like, such as shopping
Loyalty means you do not overstep the boundaries of your partnership, as defined by your partner. Everyone has different definitions of what it means to be ?loyal? and what it means to be ?cheating?. For example, Janet might consider looking at the opposite sex in a lustful manner as cheating, or bordering to cheating. John might define cheating if his girlfriend kisses another guy. Alex, who is in an open relationship, might only consider cheating if his partner?develops?feelings for another person.
Understand each others boundaries, and make the effort to stay within it. The hard part is establishing the boundaries. That requires honesty and self reflection.
Honesty in a relationship means sharing with your partner your innermost thoughts, desires, boundaries, feelings and insecurities. This is a big step to take in any relationship, and I consider this the ?Waterfall Step?. Once you go through being totally honest with each other, and survive it, then you ready to bring the relationship to the next level. Its like your boat is going down the waterfall, and you manage to survive it together.
Both parties must have an open mindset. Put aside your judgement hat, and be ready to take this step. It is very difficult to be completely honest with another person, as you are fearful of being judged.?Make the?commitment?to be open, receiving and loving towards each other at the beginning. Say those words out. ?I commit to be open, receiving and loving to my boyfriend/girlfriend during this Waterfall Step session. This is the time for me to understand him, and vice versa. We shall survive this together!?
Be open about what you like and dislike, your fears and your dreams. Whether you want to have children, your past, your future together. Schedule a time to sit down with her, and write out the questions and start talking. It is ok for the other party to resist, or to feel uncomfortable, because most people have never done this before. The main thing to look out for is the effort. He must be willing to TRY. If he does not bother to try, then this relationship is very difficult to continue.
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